How To Rediscover Your Purpose as Your Kids Grow
We found this tiny dinosaur in our car today, a relic of days gone by. We found it whilst clearing out the car which has sadly gone to car heaven after 12 years of service to our family.
I know it’s just a car, but we feel bereft. It’s not really the metal we’re sad about, it’s the acceptance that a stage of our lives as a family has gone. For us the car conjures up many, many happy memories of two little boys, a puppy and tent in the back, off on adventures across the UK and France. Now our eldest is about to embark on his GCSE’s and we’re replacing this car with a smaller one for them to learn to drive in. I mean it blows our mind that we’re old enough for this to be happening!
And that’s the crux of why I coach mums-especially around midlife- as these milestone transitions can be hard to navigate. They can leave you feeling lost and unsure about the future.
My journey
I know; I struggled to find personal meaning and purpose as my kids needed me less. I have always loved being a mum and was very happy and grateful to have the opportunity to be a full-time mum to two small boys. But as time ticked by, I was unsure what direction to take as they began to grow up. Whilst I still needed – and wanted – to be around for them, I also wanted something more for me too.
I spent years feeling a little lost, going around in circles with decisions and feeling my confidence ebb away. Deep down I knew I had more to give. When I trained to be a coach, I realised that it brought together so many of my personal and professional skills and now I do what I’ve always wanted to do- help and support others.
Do I wish I’d had a coach back then?
Absolutely.
Did I know what a life coach was?
No, but I do remember a conversation with friends along the lines of “I could do with a careers advisor like we had in school.”
I now know I needed more than career advice, I needed to find my purpose again, but I wanted someone to talk it through with. Luckily, that’s where I can help YOU!
Three easy ways to begin your journey.
If this resonates and you’re struggling with your identity or career path as your kids grow up, or you’ve hit midlife and the menopause and are thinking what now? Let’s chat. I can help you turn that ‘what now?" into a clear direction which will lead you forwards with confidence, purpose, and excitement.
1. Book me! I offer three FREE Dare to Dream calls each month. These are a mixture of conversation, self-reflection, visualisation, and planning. Perfect to kickstart some thinking and get to know me. Email me at hello@helenlangdon.com
2. Vision board- I have a free vision board which you can download on my website here, but if you want to get more creative, stockpile some magazines, buy a large piece of board, visualise your future life and get sticking! Think about what gives you purpose, meaning and joy.
3.Try these Live Your Values Deck for £17. It’s a beautiful set of 78 illustrated cards for the most common core values. You rate each card for how important it is for you and then narrow them down to your priorities. It’s a wonderful exercise for us all to do every now and again to make sure we’re living our best life.
